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2025
I used to say that teachers should never sleep with their students. I still feel that way broadly, but a number of people in mentorship roles and friendship roles have had long, long relationships with former students. My teacher cremated her husband last year, him being perhaps my dearest heart’s teacher. She was his student 20 years ago.
Time delays in a system can help highlight the difference between a pragmatic, transparent room with agency and a room with an authoritarian vibe. Are sexual relations between leaders and community members given clear protocols for safety? Generally, i think not. This is not a efficacious strategy.
I think the best bet is don’t sleep with your students, I think the second best bet is make sure that there is a transparency and accountability if a relationship starts.
I’m no HR expert, but your yoga teacher probably didn’t go to seminary school to hear all this. And anyway, its not like that has a 100% score, either. We can anticipate and intervene better, I think when we remain pragmatic and transparent.
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Time delays in a system can help highlight the difference between a pragmatic, transparent room with agency and a room with an authoritarian vibe. Are sexual relations between leaders and community members given clear protocols for safety? Generally, i think not. This is not a efficacious strategy.
I think the best bet is don’t sleep with your students, I think the second best bet is make sure that there is a transparency and accountability if a relationship starts.
I’m no HR expert, but your yoga teacher probably didn’t go to seminary school to hear all this. And anyway, its not like that has a 100% score, either. We can anticipate and intervene better, I think when we remain pragmatic and transparent.
More on youtube!
in imageIt's like you shouldn't fuck your students. Grooming Leaders abusing power Power dynamics Sexual exploitation Safeguarding Non-existen[t] [safeguar]ding Poor sa[feguarding]
population and you understand and That they are already inherent power
But you know you can like allow that to not Happen by having a zero
It's like you shouldn't fuck your students. | Grooming | Leaders abusing power | Power dynamics | Sexual exploitation | Safeguarding | Non-existen...ding | Poor sa...
population and you understand and That they are already inherent power
Leaders abusing power
Power dynamics
Sexual exploitation
Safeguarding
Non-existent safeguarding
Poor saf[eguarding]
Prompt
But you know you can like allow that to not Happen by having a zero
It's like you shouldn't fuck your students. Grooming Leaders abusing power Power dynamics Sexual exploitation Safeguarding Non-existen[t] [safeguar]ding Poor sa[feguarding]
population and you understand and That they are already inherent power | Leaders abusing power | Power dynamics | Sexual exploitation | Safeguarding | Non-existent safeguarding | Poor saf[eguarding] | Promp[t]
But you know you can like allow that to not Happen by having a zero
It's like you shouldn't fuck your students.
Grooming
Power dynamics
Leaders abusing power
Sexual exploitation
Safeguarding
Non-existen[t] [safeguar]ding
Poor sa[feguarding]
population and you understand and That they are already inherent power
Leaders abusing power
Power dynamics
Sexual exploitation
Safeguarding
Non-existent safeguarding
Poor saf
Prompt
But you know you can like allow that to not Happen by having a zero
population and you understand and That they are already inherent power
But you know you can like allow that to not Happen by having a zero
It's like you shouldn't fuck your students. | Grooming | Leaders abusing power | Power dynamics | Sexual exploitation | Safeguarding | Non-existen...ding | Poor sa...
population and you understand and That they are already inherent power
Leaders abusing power
Power dynamics
Sexual exploitation
Safeguarding
Non-existent safeguarding
Poor saf[eguarding]
Prompt
But you know you can like allow that to not Happen by having a zero
It's like you shouldn't fuck your students. Grooming Leaders abusing power Power dynamics Sexual exploitation Safeguarding Non-existen[t] [safeguar]ding Poor sa[feguarding]
population and you understand and That they are already inherent power | Leaders abusing power | Power dynamics | Sexual exploitation | Safeguarding | Non-existent safeguarding | Poor saf[eguarding] | Promp[t]
But you know you can like allow that to not Happen by having a zero
It's like you shouldn't fuck your students.
Grooming
Power dynamics
Leaders abusing power
Sexual exploitation
Safeguarding
Non-existen[t] [safeguar]ding
Poor sa[feguarding]
population and you understand and That they are already inherent power
Leaders abusing power
Power dynamics
Sexual exploitation
Safeguarding
Non-existent safeguarding
Poor saf
Prompt
But you know you can like allow that to not Happen by having a zero
Theres a theory that people want strong male leaders instinctually because of their value to survival for our ancient kin. Brian Klaas posits that we call authoritarian leadership “Strong Man Tactics” for that very reason.
As a big, strong, dude— i get how this might be inconvenient news.
According to Antwerp School of Business: “Research shows that introverted leaders are often better equipped to tackle complex problems than their extroverted counterparts. They tend to be more open to others’ input and create space for collective collaboration.”
As a gregarious person, I can see how this might be inconvenient news.
They continue: “This is essential because solving complex challenges requires collective leadership. Leaders who can unite diverse perspectives and co-create solutions are best positioned to address today’s pressing issues.
Yet, despite the need for collaboration and diversity, we continue to favor outdated leadership models centered on strength and dominance. This is not what we need now, but it’s what we keep choosing.”
in order to not find an entropy towards accumulating power without earning it through service, I remain mindful of these sentiments. it doesn’t cost me anything to do that, I’m still as good as I ever was. I just come in this package.
Look around at your community: is there a narrative of inclusion and openness? Do you see it reflected in diversity of membership? What about community thought leaders? Leadership?
As a big, strong, dude— i get how this might be inconvenient news.
According to Antwerp School of Business: “Research shows that introverted leaders are often better equipped to tackle complex problems than their extroverted counterparts. They tend to be more open to others’ input and create space for collective collaboration.”
As a gregarious person, I can see how this might be inconvenient news.
They continue: “This is essential because solving complex challenges requires collective leadership. Leaders who can unite diverse perspectives and co-create solutions are best positioned to address today’s pressing issues.
Yet, despite the need for collaboration and diversity, we continue to favor outdated leadership models centered on strength and dominance. This is not what we need now, but it’s what we keep choosing.”
in order to not find an entropy towards accumulating power without earning it through service, I remain mindful of these sentiments. it doesn’t cost me anything to do that, I’m still as good as I ever was. I just come in this package.
Look around at your community: is there a narrative of inclusion and openness? Do you see it reflected in diversity of membership? What about community thought leaders? Leadership?
in imageDo men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend
Do men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend
you know, that's none of your business. | Exclusion from leadership | Control | Woman and queer people especially | Purpose | Group continuity | Regardless of gend...
you're going to see that women get a platform also and you can kind of notice | Equal opportunity | Gender Control vs Equality | Gender Control | Women Control | Tightly controlled | Excluded fr... | from key sions
Do men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend[er]
you know, that's none of your business.
Exclusion from leadership
Control
Woman and queer people especially
Purpose
Group continuity
Regardless of gend
you're going to see that women get a platform also and you can kind of notice | Equal opportunity | Gender Control vs Equality | Gender Control | Women Control | Tightly controlled | Excluded fr... | from key sions
Do men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend
you know, that's none of your business. | Exclusion from leadership | Control | Woman and queer people especially | Purpose | Group continuity | Regardless of gend...
you're goingto see that women get a platform also and you can kind of notice | Equal opportunity | Gender Control vs Equality | Gender Control | Women Control | Tightly controlled | Excluded fr... | from key sions
Do men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend
you know, that's none of your business. | Exclusion from leadership | Control | Woman and queer people especially | Purpose | Group continuity | Regardless of gend...
you're going to see that women get a platform also and you can kind of notice
Equal opportunity
Gender Control vs Equality
Gender Control
Women Control
Tightly controlled
Excluded fr...
from key sions
Do men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend
you know, that's none of your business. | Exclusion from leadership | Control | Woman and queer people especially | Purpose | Group continuity | Regardless of gend...
you're going to see that women get a platform also and you can kind of notice | Equal opportunity | Gender Control vs Equality | Gender Control | Women Control | Tightly controlled | Excluded fr... | from key sions
Do men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend[er]
you know, that's none of your business.
Exclusion from leadership
Control
Woman and queer people especially
Purpose
Group continuity
Regardless of gend
you're going to see that women get a platform also and you can kind of notice | Equal opportunity | Gender Control vs Equality | Gender Control | Women Control | Tightly controlled | Excluded fr... | from key sions
Do men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend
you know, that's none of your business. | Exclusion from leadership | Control | Woman and queer people especially | Purpose | Group continuity | Regardless of gend...
you're goingto see that women get a platform also and you can kind of notice | Equal opportunity | Gender Control vs Equality | Gender Control | Women Control | Tightly controlled | Excluded fr... | from key sions
Do men have more authority in a group? Exclusion from leadership Control Woman and queer people especially Purpose Group continuity Regardless of gend
you know, that's none of your business. | Exclusion from leadership | Control | Woman and queer people especially | Purpose | Group continuity | Regardless of gend...
you're going to see that women get a platform also and you can kind of notice
Equal opportunity
Gender Control vs Equality
Gender Control
Women Control
Tightly controlled
Excluded fr...
from key sions
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