The bit about every day bring the day you might die-- and having to die a second rate, repressed version of yourself -- is the reality when you are not safe. Might as well be yourself, because your safety as a queer person is never guaranteed.

"Passing" for straight could be considered a privilege... so long as it's price isn't self-love.

Why I've Avoided Dressing More Femininely — Until Now

https://www.buzzfeed.com/jpbrammer/why-ive-avoided-dressing-more-femininely-until-now?utm_term=.bxX4OWpL6#.ndgVoW6JB

If he were writing “The Art of the Deal” today, Schwartz said, it would be a very different book with a very different title. Asked what he would call it, he answered, “The Sociopath.”

http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2016/07/25/donald-trumps-ghostwriter-tells-all?via=newsletter&source=CSAMedition