in imageThings Queer Culture Teaches
That Straight Culture Doesn't:
• You don't have to get married if you don't want to.
• You don't have to have kids if you don't want to.
• It's nobody's job to flirt with you or be flirted with. If you're
into someone, do the work and tell them.
• People will judge you and reject you without knowing you.
This isn't your fault. You're not the broken one.
• Your clothing and hair and other style choices are to make
YOU feel good first and foremost.
• Signaling to your people is the secondary job of hair and
clothes. But don't dress for them. Be you, they'll see it.
• Anyone who judges you badly for your hair and clothes is not
your people and can fuck off.
• Physical affection in public is an act of deliberate courage.
• Family is a matter of choice. Loyalty is a two-way street.
• Mental health is important and it's hard. Anxiety and
depression are natural reactions to the world.
• Sensitivity isn't weakness. It just means you pay attention.
• People who think "sex" only means a penis in a vagina
deserve pity. (They don't deserve better sex, just pity.)
• Everyone who's interesting reinvented themselves after
their world fell apart. Just like you did.
• Community is a safety net from an unfair worid. Let it catch
you when you need it. Catch others when you can.
• Don't live your life for anyone else's happiness. Live for your
own, and share it.